Lifehacking 101: How to Overcome Mental Fears

lifehacking 101 how to over come mental fears

Lifehacking 101 is a new collaboration with Sebastian DeLuca. Sebastian is a student and entrepreneur who has mastered the ability to capitalize on his goals. Once every two weeks, Sebastian will provide a series of action items geared toward optimizing your life and overcoming the insecurities that hold us back. Check back in two weeks for the next installment!

Lifehacking 101 is about doing. If you’ve ever wanted to be more confident, to start a business or do anything thing else that terrifies you, this might just be a good place to start. You’ve been inspired by quotes, self-help books and mainstream films, and now you’re ready to take action. Often times we get so bogged down in the millions of responsibilities and distractions in our lives that we never make time for the things we know we want to do. Well, the excuses stop here. Let’s crush it.

Three questions to ask yourself to overcome mental fears

Growing up, my mother would always tell me that “the unexamined life is not worth living.” Now Socrates might be famous and all, but after a while the weight of history’s inspiring quotes can be a bit heavy. A few well crafted series of words might motivate us for a moment, but rarely will they shoulder us through to the point of goal completion.

As humans we’ve heard the drones of self-improvement speeches, articles and books. We know we should make time for the things we enjoy. We know we should step outside our comfort zones. We’ve been told about the glory of pursuing our dreams. These motifs are echoed again and again by celebrities and business moguls who act as though their success can be easily replicated if you just “find your passion.”

But I don’t think that finding a passion is the problem. The issue faced by society today is not a lack of love or dreams or inspiration, but rather one of action and implementation. We are paralyzed by options, stalled by possibilities. If anything the problem is in acting on the abundance of things we want to accomplish, rather than the discovery of tasks to take on. Maybe you want to get that girl’s phone number in Starbucks, but something is stopping you. Or maybe you want to pursue a business idea, but you don’t know where to start. No matter the reason, the excuses stop here.

The Task

Next time you find yourself in a situation where you want to take action but feel paralyzed, whether it’s talking to someone you’re interested in or an idea for a new business, pause and ask yourself these three questions:

  1. What are the potential consequences of taking action in this situation?
  2. Can I overcome the potential consequences relatively quickly?
  3. If yes, how can I get started in the next five minutes?

Cheesy as it may seem, pausing to ask yourself these questions in a moment of doubt will often reveal a hidden truth: the consequences of most of our actions are usually never as bad as we perceive them to be in our heads. Taking risks doesn’t always yield positive results, but doing nothing will get you no farther. We have nothing to lose from small failures, but tons to potentially gain on the upside.

So in the next five minutes, the next 24 hours, or sometime in the next week- ask the three questions. Action doesn’t have to mean completion or even success, but you’ll likely be one step closer when you realize you have nothing to lose.

  • Alecia

    seriously needed this encouragement and thoughts today. You really hit the nail on the head. definitely bookmarking this series and will be along for the ride. I might email you some questions

    • Sebastian deluca

      Hey alecia- glad you enjoyed the article! There are definitely more to come.

      As seen in this article, I try to always have a ‘task’ of some sort for people to fulfill. The tasks will always be things that are both doable with a bit of courage and feasible given how busy people are today.

      You can reach me at if you ever want to chat more.


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